Fo women who want to create their unique brand of motherhood
Meaningful Motherhood is a podcast for women seeking insight and inspiration around how to create their very own, personal brand of motherhood, one that is both meaningful and more importantly, which works for them, their children, their family, and their life. Hosted by Women’s Health Occupational Therapist Sarah Hausler, director of Bloom Wellbeing Occupational Therapy clinic and Women's Health Occupational Therapy Australia.
How do you think it would impact your family to spend one week of every month living in another state, away from your husband and children?
This is the lifestyle of this week's podcast guest, Jess Caire, who lives in Queensland with her family, but runs her business in South Australia.
I first met Jess earlier this year when she interviewed me on a panel at a women's business conference. So it was great to turn the tables in this interview and be able to ask Jess to answer the questions instead. I was super-keen to chat to Jess about her experience of living bi-coastal while raising a family, but what I found through this interview was that Jess had SO MUCH more to say about motherhood, and how her various life experiences have shaped her parenting decisions.
In this episode we chat about:
* how Jess flipped her life from being the wife of a FIFO husband, to being the FIFO-er herself, and how this made life exponentially better for her, her husband and her children.
* her experience with postnatal depression and adrenal fatigue
* why she hates the phrase "work-life balance"
* the impact of social media and "comparisonitis" for mothers and the importance of letting go of perfection
* how a life-threatening accident on the Kokoda Track last year changed her view of motherhood and life in general
* why slowing down and "making space"
For more information on Jess, you can find her at the following links:
Jess Caire website - Conversations with Jess:https://www.jesscaire.com/
My "Conversation with Jess" on her blog:https://www.jesscaire.com/single-post/2017/06/15/Conversations-With-Jess-16---Sarah-Hausler
Jess Caire Facebook page:https://www.facebook.com/jesscaire1/
Marshall Conveyancing Facebook page:https://www.facebook.com/marshallcg/
Marshall Conveyancing Website:http://www.marshallconveyancing.com.au/
Have you heard of the mental load? Chances are, if you're a Mum, you're bearing the brunt of it - even if you've never heard that phrase before.
The mental load is the name given to all those invisible mental tasks we undertake, on behalf of our families, to keep our household running like a well oiled machine. We're not talking here about mopping the floors, packing school lunches and washing load upon load of laundry each week. Rather, what we're talking about is all the stuff we keep in our head - such as remembering to sign and return excursion forms by the due date, thinking about whether you've got enough squeezie yoghurts to get through the week, and figuring out what Christmas gift to buy your children's teachers. The stuff that Mums have running around their heads 24/7.
It's constant, and it's exhausting. It's also what can change our experience of motherhood from one that's fulfilling, meaningful and enjoyable, to one that is frustrating and impactful on our wellbeing. It's time for us to start offloading some of that mental load, for the sake of our own wellbeing, and that of our family.
In this episode, I take you through the four steps needed to start addressing the mental load.
Links from today's episode:
Here's a link to the French cartoon I mentioned which started this whole discussion.https://www.theguardian.com/world/2017/may/26/gender-wars-household-chores-comic
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Meaningful Motherhood Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/100261716985427/
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There's a lot of talk these days about the "Mental Load" that mothers take on in modern society, but unfortunately not a lot of discussion around practical strategies to lessen the impact of this issue.
Which is why it was such a delight to interview Tiffany Murray for this week's podcast episode.
When I first met Tiffany earlier this year at a women's business conference, I was immediately drawn to her bubbly, confident nature, and oodles of natural charm. But it was when she started talking about the "wife" she hired to support her in running the family and household that my interest was really piqued.
In this interview we chat about how it was that Tiffany (who also has an actual, legal husband) came to realise that she needed her own "hired wife" to support her, and how this arrangement works for her, her family, and her business.
ps: I'll also be talking about the "mental mother-load" in next week's episode, and sharing my top tips for practical and sustainable ways to manage and reduce the mental load and its impact on our wellbeing.
For more information on Tiffany, you can find her here:https://www.facebook.com/TiffanyMurrayOfficial/
Dressed for Sale:https://dressedforsale.com.au/
Sarah's Book Recommendation: The Wife Drought, by Annabel Crabbhttps://www.penguin.com.au/books/the-wife-drought-9780857984289
When it comes to making parenting decisions as a mother, what do we use to guide us? Do we just follow the same rules and expectations our parents had of us? Do we simply take the path of least resistance? Do we take the lead of other women in our mothers group? Do we constantly defer to our husband? Do we follow the well meaning advice of any number of parenting experts adorning the shelves of our local bookstore?
None of these strategies are particularly effective for a number of reasons. But we do need something to support us in our parenting decisions, to ease the burden of the exhausting volume and weight of decisions we make on a daily basis.
In today's episode I chat about the importance of understanding our personal values, as a woman and as a mother, and how we can use these values to help guide our decision making through the forest of parenting decisions we face in our daily lives.
What are your thoughts on play? Do you consider yourself a playful mother? Or is play something purely reserved for the kids in your household?
Today's podcast guest, Clare Crew is an early childhood teacher, educational consultant, and owner of Thriving Children. In this episode we chat all about play, it's importance not only to children, but for parents too, and why so many mothers have lost the ability to play.
To find out more about Clare, you can find her here:
Thriving Children website:
Thriving Children podcast:
Thriving Children Facebook page: